It is no secret that a breakup can be so painful, it can crush your joyful disposition and replace it with a tearful despair but how can you get over a breakup?
In this article, we would consider real life accounts of breakups, notice how they dealt with it and analyze how to get over a breakup.
Testimony about break up feelings from mary:
We’d been dating for eight months and i was so much in love. When he wanted to end the relationship, he couldn’t even face me.
He just stopped talking to me. I reached out so many times but he didn’t reply. I felt helpless and used.
The hurt was overwhelming. I kept asking myself “what did i do wrong”
Know And Accept Why Breakup Hurts:
It is okay to cry, shedding tears doesn’t mean you’re weak. The tears help release the pain.
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Consider Elena who was stood on her wedding day. She recalls;
I thought he loved me enough to want to marry me. On that faithful day, i was so happy because i was going to get married and when he didn’t show up, i felt my world crushing down. All I could do was cry but anytime i cried, I felt better than I felt before
Granted, crying could help you relieve an amount of grief. It helped Elena get over her breakup .
Jeff who also went through a similar situation. He said;
She broke with me and i found out the next day that she was in a new relationship. I felt less of myself. Every night, my pillow was soaked with tears but afterwards, i felt a bit relieved.
You may find yourself growing through these stages of grief;
Denial:
It cant be over, he/she would change his/her mind in a day or two
Anger:
How could he/she do this to me, i cant stand him
Depression:
I’m unlovable, no one would ever love me.
Acceptance:
The breakup hurts but I’m going to be alright.
How much time to get to the Acceptance point will depend on factors like how long your relationship lasted or how far it progressed.
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NB; don’t rush into another relationship, allow yourself to heal. Don’t send the baggage of the old relationship into a new one, it’ll only make you re-live the same situation.
Keep Yourself Busy:
Now more than ever, do the things that interest you, this is the key to get over a breakup.
Always make plans to have something doing. These are two different ways to keep yourself busy;
Set goals; set reasonable goals for yourself , what do want to achieve in life, focus on the m now.
Make it a point meet your goals. This would give you an agenda to think about and help you get over the breakup.
Get yourself a hobby: find that one thing that you enjoy doin and keep doing it, it could be a game, reading or simply going out for a walk.
This will get your mind of the breakup and help you get over the breakup. It will also help you enjoy your own company.
Take Care Of Your Physical Health And Appearance:
Jeff mentioned earlier in the article added that; “ I began to exercise regularly, i ate right and took enough water.
I spent more time taking care off my appearance that I forgot about the breakup.
I love myself more now and i have confidence to. It helped get over the breakup.
Focus on yourself self now, you deserve it. Taking care of your physical health would help replenish the energy lost as a result of the emotional toll of the breakup.
Tip; Don’t beg them to take you back. Oftentimes than not, they thought about it and broke up with you within them before they actually did it.
Begging them would inly make you look pathetic and they would use that power against you.
Surround Yourself With People And Things That Uplift You:
Damaris‘s testimony,
All I did was to listen to music that uplifted me. It got me through it, i got over the breakup i no time.
As simple as it sounds, surrounding yourself with people that uplift would help you move on.
Make plans to associate yourself with people and try to have a god time.
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Here is an action plan to help you get over a breakup. Fill the blank spaces in your own word per your plans;
What have I learnt from the breakup………..
To help me move on after the breakup, i will……
What can i work on to be a better partner in my next relationship………
What can i learn about the opposite sex ……
What have I learnt about myself in my old relationship……..
What can I expect in a new relationship……
Don’t re-live the past, a breakup can be a blessing in disguise.
You can have a relationship to die for even after a very bad relationship, you just have to believe and work for it.
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I have found out that she is cheating so i want to break up with her but i can’t , i have been thinking about her all the day,please can i have any help here?
This raise a multiple questions….like, why can’t you break up with her when you know she is cheating?….How did you get to know she is cheating?….Is this your first time knowing she is cheating?…And lastly, do you want to be in a relationship that is full of cheating or you want to break up and have your peace Of mind???? Answer this questions and we will be able to help you out and what to do.
Deleting your exes number is also another point
That’s one good tip to, thank you